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Without honor, respect,
and appreciation, romance soon fades into the sunset. Appreciate where you
are today. It’s the starting point for building your future together
in love, work, and finance. Document it, understand it, and plan for it
to grow. Since I work with finances my husband and I began a practice of
romantic money management and appreciation.
2) Ownership
While we began this practice
around our finances, it has expanded now to include love, work, and life
in general, except the day of and the day after bill paying, then it is
exclusively about abundance, prosperity and appreciation for the responsibility
each of us have in the process. Like everything that is really fabulous
in life, Romantic Money Management takes practice. It’s like a muscle
that needs strengthening.
Start
each day by appreciating who you and who your partner is. My husband and
I sit together each morning before we begin our day with our protein shakes
in the morning before we run out the door.
One of us starts and
says:
What I appreciate
about myself is ___________.
What I appreciate
about you is ________________.
Then, it’s the
other ones turn….
We take three turns each.
Take ownership of your role and honor the role of your partner and appreciate
yourself and your partner for this.
3) Pillow Talk
Leave notes on the
pillow for the evening….love notes, notes of appreciation and adoration.
This works especially well, if you are in a huff, want to make up, and
the old ego has a hold of your brain, I write all the things I would say
if I weren’t mad. It opens up the loving and soothes the hurt for
each other. When pillow talk becomes a habit, the mere appearance of an
envelope will bring a smile. Build a tradition of supporting, encouraging,
and promoting your partner.
4) Saving
Consider whatever
you are doing together romantic. Choose something you both want, either
for the house, a vacation, etc., Then start a savings fund, in Money Toolbox
we use a cookie jar. Put a percentage of money from paychecks, change
collected from your pocket, etc in the cookie jar together and watch the
savings and your love grow. Set common goals and save for them together
and appreciate your progress.
5) Celebrations
Give life to your
appreciation with celebrations. Normally we think about celebrations as
being costly. Celebrate everything and in the simplest of ways, kissing
– hugging – acknowledgments – dancing to your favorite
song, just taking the time to listen to music together, holding hands
and watching TV, walking together admiring all the gifts of the planet.
Breathe in the romance of the moment. YUMMY! Celebrate your successes
and your failures. Successes are easy but remember that failures are indicators
of a willingness to reach beyond yourself and grow.
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